Yasmin Elzomor is a model turned life coach and manifestation expert. She specializes in love and relationships. She’s passionate about helping others step into their power and dive deeply into their own shadows. Through her teachings, she practices what she preaches and lives with integrity as she grows side by side with her clients. Gratitude in the attitude!
Yasmin: Gratitude has been a life-changing tool that I’ve used for a while now and it has transformed my life in ways I never thought possible. Simply being aware of the little things I have like a loving family, a healthy romantic relationship, and food on my table, helps me stay present and allows me to continue manifesting incredible things into my life. As a life coach, this is a practice that I have my clients do because of how powerful it is, and because of how much it’s helped me evolve.
For example, to be grateful is to acknowledge all the good in your life consistently. However, this doesn’t mean that negativity doesn’t exist; it just means you’re actively choosing to look at the good and find the silver lining. Before I break down the practice of gratitude, I want to share a quick personal story about how being grateful changed my perspective.
True story: I use to be a negative nancy. Everything and I mean everything was an issue for me. When things didn’t go my way, it would upset me. When something didn’t work out for me, I would get frustrated. This was a cycle I was constantly hitting and it was so exhausting to keep up with. The smallest inconveniences would trigger me and I was always stuck in a victim mentality of “why me? why is this happening to me?”.
I would look at life’s struggles through a victim lens rather than a growth lens. It was challenging for me to find the silver lining. I didn’t know how to find the lesson in what life was trying to teach me. It wasn’t until the previous breakup that I finally learned to appreciate situations for what they are. Even if those situations are difficult. Rather than playing the victim, blaming my partner and the relationship, I was able to sit with myself and feel complete neutrality for the breakup and the way things ended.
I started to see things through the lens of gratitude. How can I learn from this situation? What can I learn about myself during this time? What can I learn about what I like and don’t like in a future partner? How can I turn this pain into power? These are a few things I would ask myself. Every time I reflected on the situation, it led me to a place of love and peace. Let me tell you, that is truly a beautiful place to be.
Now I see and appreciate things for what they are and I search for the lesson and ask myself. How can I continue expanding? Practicing gratitude is very simple. It might take some time getting used to, but consistency is key when you’re building a new practice. Ready to hear the top 7 secrets to begin transforming your life?
List out at least 3 things you’re grateful for every single night. It can be the smallest thing from a delicious cup of coffee you had that morning to a big thing like getting a job promotion. It doesn’t matter what it is, as long as you feel the emotion of gratitude in your attitude and as long as you’re consistent. When you can do this every night, your life will begin to shift.
Take a few minutes out of your day to sit in silence so you can reflect on your blessings and show gratitude for yourself and for all the beauty around you. Do meditation or prayer and feel the gratitude flowing through you during those quiet moments. Maybe send blessings to a loved one or to someone that needs extra support and love. Doing this will rewire your brain to naturally look for the good. Then, you’ll increase your feelings of joy and happiness.
One of the main keys to having more gratitude is to give back to others in the community. Indeed, it will make you more grateful for the things that you may take for granted. Studies have shown that volunteering for the purpose of helping others increases our own well-being and our ability to have more gratitude. Besides, there are so many great places to give your time to such as an animal shelter. A soup kitchen, a national park, or a retirement home. Spread love and love will come back to you.
Letting someone know how thankful you are for them is a wonderful way to increase your own feelings of gratitude. Write a letter to someone you appreciate or give them a call just to express how much you love them and appreciate them. As a result, you will make their day and bring them joy, but you’ll also boost your own mood and feelings of appreciation for yourself and others.
This is one of my personal favorites. In order to be able to appreciate the good in life, we have to be willing to appreciate the bad. Our shadows are just as important as our light. Thinking about negative or difficult situations can help you see the positive ones and it’ll also help you see the challenges in a more positive light. Dig deeper into some of your past experiences and try to figure out how they have helped shape you into the person you are today.
Complaining feels good because we get to rant about our negative feelings. However, if it becomes a habit, it can be toxic and bring us down. See how long you can go without complaining about your job, your partner, a family member, the weather, your finances, etc. It takes 21 days for our brains to create a new habit so by practicing this consistently, you’ll find yourself feeling more positive and transforming your life.
Saying affirmations silently or out loud helps us change our inner dialogue that may be creating self-limiting beliefs that can prevent us from living our highest potential. When we say affirmations, we’re stepping out of our victim role and acknowledging our own power.
Once we get into the flow of feeling grateful, we vibrate on a higher level which then helps us attract amazing people and opportunities into our lives. We all have a very important choice to make every day: focus on the good which allows abundance and love to flow, or focus on the negative, which blocks our abundance from showing up.
In conclusion, the choice is yours. Leave a comment below and tell us which direction do you choose to take today?
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Yasmin, thank you for this article. I had many years of my life where everything went right. I had positive forward moving successful experiences. Then dark days fell upon my life with multiple hardships and losses back to back over a few years. I became challenged to find happiness and many days felt depressed and negative. Exercising similar steps to your article brought me out of negativity and back to positivity and happiness, and yes success! Your article is perfect and spot on and I hope it reaches thousands of people. I suggest people print your article and practice it every day so they can see the benefits and transformation to positivity and good mental and physical health. Thank you for sharing your wonderful practice!
Truly inspirational article, indeed great advice on how to find happiness, thank you so much.